Published by CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform on June 5th 2015
Genres: Love & Romance, Marriage & Long Term Relationships
Love may be blind, but you don’t have to be. No matter which stage of a relationship you’re in, this book and companion mobile app can help guide you with some of the most important decisions of your life: * Are you aware of what you really need from a romantic relationship? * Do you want insight to make better decisions, and avoid relationship pitfalls? * Are you able to see the patterns and trends of where your relationship is headed? * Do you really know how well your most important needs are being met? * Is it time to consider ending a stormy relationship that won’t improve or is getting worse, or can you actually make it better? The Balanced Relationship Barometer, and innovative free mobile app Relationship Barometer, can help guide you through the often confusing maze of emotions and decisions, with clarity and insight, to achieve the relationship you deserve.
This is a great book. It is not an in depth look at how to fix your relationship but it is concise and poignant and has a lot of helpful tips.
Being a Psychology and Behavioral Science major I am very interested in how people act and react. It is not only that though, it’s the fact that we have a relationship, of a sort, with every person we meet. Even the people down at Subway that we just order our lunch from weekly. These types of concepts can be taken and used not only for those relationships, but more importantly, with the relationships that you want to keep for the rest of your life.
Full disclosure: I love my husband. He’s a pain sometimes but he is my husband and we are trying to make things work. We just got through an extremely tough two years but lately I have still been feeling down. As I said above, I’m a Psychology major, I should know how to fix this, but I can only work on myself. If my hubby does not want to do something, then that is up to him. This book has some easy to use techniques to help bring communication to the forefront and to help you and your partner know how you feel without all the mess.
The one thing I really like is the three questions.
- What you HAVE to have in your relationship
- What you would LIKE to have.
- What you would hate. The make/break things.
This is so succinct! Everyone can answer those questions. My hubby was even able to answer the last one and he never, ever complains. I was able to discuss with him the things that I felt I MUST have and the things that I can probably chill out about but would still like to have. These three things made our communication fabulous. We were already communicating pretty well, we do have 14 years practice, but sometimes our egos get in the way. These three bullet points helped to narrow down the most important struggles that we have daily. AND helped my hubby explain what he hates.
What I love about this book is that it is real. Michael discusses the chemicals that we all have when relationships start and what to do when those very same chemicals that make you feel like you’re in love, start to wane, and then you wonder what in the world you were thinking! He peppers advice with psychological research and anecdotes that anyone can related to.
Understand the reality that it’s extremely difficult to change another person, unless they really want to change for themselves.
Compatibility is not just about whether you have the same favorite sort or food, but what you each uniquely want and need from a relationship, and how that plays out in the dynamics of your interactions.
There is an app that is included for free with the book, however, since this was just published I was not able to play with the app. I plan to use it when it is approved and come back to update the review. For now, I think this is a great, and positive way, to get people talking in a manner which encourages trust.