I received this book for free from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review.Don't Let Anything Dull Your Sparkle by Doreen Virtue
Published by Hay House on September 15th 2015
Genres: Happiness, Mental Health
Difficult relationships and challenging circumstances all come down to one thing: drama. In this groundbreaking book, Doreen Virtue guides you through the process of determining your Drama Quotient. You’ll discover how much stress you are unnecessarily tolerating and absorbing from other people and situations.
Doreen explains the physiological reasons why you can become addicted to high-drama relationships, jobs, and lifestyles, and how to heal from this cycle. You’ll come to understand how traumatic events from the past may have triggered post-traumatic symptoms, including anxiety, weight gain, and addictions—and you’ll learn natural and scientifically supported methods for restoring peace and balance to your body and your life.
Doreen shows you how to:
• Deal with relatives, friends, and co-workers who are “hooked” on drama
• Assess your own level of drama addiction
• Stop allowing negativity in your life
· Relieve anxiety and bring about inner peace
Go on an overall Drama Detox to clear away negativity, and let your light shine through!
This book… With such a fabulous title I so wanted it to hit the spots! To grab me and to really help me see the sparkle in myself and inn others too!
Well, right out of the gate I had some issues.
To begin with, I did enjoy the talk about trauma. Trauma is literally traumatic, so much so that it can stop someone in their tracks just by a trigger! I have some issues that are triggered out of nowhere so I was hoping this would be a positive experience. So many people are hurt by trauma and the drama that surrounds them.
Sadly, it doesn’t quite hit the point in her questionnaire. The Drama Quotient Quiz seemed a bit off. Things that I said yes to, like I enjoy watching reality television shows, do not seem really dramatic. A more pertinent question may have been if that reality show is mired in drama. I get her point but there is a difference. For the reality shows I watch, they are all art based. Project Runway DOES have drama but it is not based around drama. Neither is watching Pitbulls and Parolees. I love dogs and want to help them have a voice. Some drama in that one, but not enough for this list.
Also, I am one of the hardest working people I know. This question definitely got a yes from me. I work hard and I enjoy putting in 100% effort. If I do not put in 100% effort I know it. Other people will know it. Again, I’m confused about this question as well and so many others.
So, while the questionnaire was interesting, it also frustrated me and put me on alert. This book is supposed to be about losing the drama right?
The book then continues to point out places where there may be drama in your life that you are choosing.
Choosing friends or romantic partners who have high-drama personalities
Focusing upon low-priorotiy activities, instead of working on what matters to you
Ignoring your inner knowingness, which is warning you to stay away from a person, behavior, or situation
Sending more money than your budget allows
Abusing substances that magnify your anxiety (for example, stimulants, including caffeine, nicotine, and sugar) or depression (depressants, including alcohol, for instance)
Not planning ahead and facing an impossible deadline that has you racing against the clock.
While I agree that these can cause drama, she then says
This isn’t to blame you (after all, blame never helps anyone or anything). Instead, it’s call to engage in detective work to help you recover your beautiful sparkle and everything that goes with it: happiness, health, peace, abundance, and high self-esteem.
I did agree with her idea on how some people just live for the drama. I have a few people in my life that are like that. Sometimes I am too. I prefer not to deal with drama but there are certain subjects, dogs for example, that I will do everything and anything for. There are people out here that would do anything and everything JUST for the drama of it all. Seems exhausting to me!
Although I did start enjoying her points she wrote a book that seems to be pointed out for a younger audience. It’s almost as if she is condescending and making things even more simple than they have to be.
Something I am hoping to get my PhD in is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and this portion really was my favorite. I love how she addresses this as a serious and overwhelming reaction to trauma that ANYONE can have. It is not just for those in the military. She talks about the reactions and what can be done about them. And most importantly, that anyone with PTSD can have a life!
Prior to the PTSD chapter I was ready to quit reading. This chapter was the book saver for me. Everything that I’ve studied (so far) about PTSD she has in here.
The diet chapter though. I understand needing to reduce sugar but some of these foods seemed interesting to me. Dieting is already hard enough and she is adding in egg whites and black tea, among many others! I have not done any studies on histamine but I feel like there is already so much out there that taking away all of these foods also, as well as KALE, I mean… we would starve due to not being able to eat anything. It isn’t her fault that all these studies are out there but my goodness..
Part two explains how to regain your sparkle but my goodness. After all of this now comes the positivity! I almost wish she would have edged some of the positivity into the beginning parts of the book. It may have felt like less to digest.
Sometimes we have drama-filled lives because of fears that peace is boring.
While I may not have believed this for myself a while ago, I totally felt this from a family member. My Dad cannot sit still for two minutes. And maybe that is why I hate drama so much. Both of my parents absolutely love drama in its various forms. I can see how this statement can be true, even if we do not know it is.
For me, it is not that peace is boring but that, especially with the reality shows I watch, I want to see growth. That’s why we go to films, or read books; to see the character arc. It does not have to be a horrible, drama filled character arc to be good either.
Overall, I think the book was okay. I really enjoyed some portions and some really frustrated me but overall it was a good book. I’m curious about her other writings.
She’s been featured on Oprah, CNN, Good Morning America, and in newspapers and magazines worldwide including her weekly column in Woman’s World magazine called “My Guardian Angel.”
You can read Doreen’s blogs, give yourself a free angel card reading or Angel Numbers reading, and visit her bookstore at: http://www.AngelTherapy.com
Doreen teaches online video classes related to her books, which are available on http://www.EarthAngel.com